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I’m new at SMHS and I’m a sophomore who moved in from the East Coast. What should I know about the school and how do I make new friends?
Dear New Royal,
If you are like most people, you are probably really excited and even a little nervous. Being a sophomore, you also already know how high school is… a lot of people have their little groups. However, many people are welcoming and very kind, and would be more than happy to welcome you as a friend. Just do not be shy. Reach out to people with similar interests. Do you enjoy music, volunteering, books, or sports? There are plenty of clubs where you can make even more new friends that like the same activities you do.
On the school side, here is a bit about the various activities that happen at SMHS . We have two big game tailgates per school year, and plenty of smaller sports games to go to. Most of the time, a Royal Card will get you in free. We always have a play in the fall (more on that later in the paper), and of course, a musical in the spring. If sports and music are not your thing, we have many other events that happen, including a Poetry Slam contest later in the year. The library is a great place to do homework or hang out with friends. I hope you have a great rest of your year and a happy time at San Marcos!
I am a freshman, and I hate wearing braces. I used to get teased in eighth grade, and even though that’s stopped, I still feel bad about my “metal mouth.” What can I do to improve my self-esteem?
-Bummed About Braces
I’m sorry to hear that you are not feeling confident about your looks. Honestly, though, braces are really helpful, and you are going to have an amazing smile really soon! While you are waiting, you might want to try building outfits around your bracket colors, instead of working against them. Pastels go with pastels, but if your brackets are dark, try moody colors like deep beige and burgundy. As far as accessories go, heart-shaped sunglasses are an up-and-coming trend right now. Hope this helps!
I have no fashion sense. My friends have (jokingly, of course) described my style as that of a kindergartener’s. How do I improve it and where can I get relatively cheap, new, stylish clothes? I’m a freshman girl. Please help.
For starters, do not ever feel bad if you do not have the same clothing taste as your friends. In lieu of fashion, denim short shorts are always a great choice to wear. Just be sure you do not wear them to school. Try Forever 21 or American Eagle. If you are looking for classic clothing styles, try Urban Outfitters and Brandy Melville. And if you want really fun and kind of wild clothing, try H&M, Boohoo, and Poshmark (though it is sometimes secondhand clothes). If you want personalized style, try Stitch Fix; all you have to do is take a quick style survey, pay for the items you want, and send back the rest. Free shipping, both ways.
It’s always super hot around this time of year, but the problem is, I’m not allowed to wear short shorts. And Bermudas make my legs look really stumpy. So, what can I do?
-Overheated and Unhappy
I will try to give you a couple of ways to stay cool . First, wear breezy shirts in light colors. Second, try asking your parents to compromise. Maybe they’ll let you wear short shorts if you prove to them you’re responsible. You can do this by keeping your room clean, keeping up your grades, and helping out around the house. If they see you are mature, they will be more likely to cave, because they will know you can handle your own clothes. It would not hurt to take good care of the clothes you already have.
I’ve had six best friends move to different states, countries, cities, or schools, and I miss them all. I’m really introverted, so I’ve had trouble finding friends. What do I do?
-Lonely in SB
I know how you feel. I’ve had plenty of friends move away before. I’m not a very extroverted person either, and I prefer to have a small group of friends over a huge crowd of acquaintances. I would try approaching people and starting a conversation. Or, you can simply ask whether you can eat lunch with them. Crack a joke, or give someone a compliment. There are so many nice people you can befriend and hopefully these friendships will last for a while. Remember, a journey of one thousand miles begins with a single step. Take that leap of faith, and you won’t be disappointed that you did not try to make new friends. Good luck!